I believe that there are a small group of women who hate men just for being men. I believe that the textbook definition of the word misandry fits that description. I believe there are bad things that happen to men. I believe those issues should be addressed. I do not believe that a fringe group of women who hate men can be blamed for those issues.
Misandry was a dead word until recently. A group of men who feared the progress of feminism revived the word and used it to undercut the movement. They like having the power being a man provides and they don’t want to lose that. So they created a movement, found a bunch of legitimate issues that affect men, and tried to blame women for those issues. They called this misandry. It’s like conservatives using buzzwords like “death panels” to make people fear health care. They let people assume it meant Obama wanted to kill your grandma. They let their cute little phrase infect the minds of good people and convince them of falsehoods.
People are telling me that men cannot report rape without getting laughed at. They say this is misandry. It is the fault of women who hate men. But that just doesn’t make any sense to me. When I seek a logical explanation, it seems more likely that this is because men are supposed to be strong and women are supposed to be weak. And rape has been viewed as something that happens mostly to women. So if it does happen to a man, they must be weak. How did this idea of men=strong and women=weak start? I’m pretty sure it wasn’t because of misandry. It is an ancient patriarchy collapsing in on itself.
Feminism is about fighting inequality. It’s about erasing the strong/weak perception ingrained into our society. Misandry, as the term is often used today, is about trying to blame women for anything bad that happens to men.
If you want to fight to fix issues that affect men, go for it. But I would really consider distancing yourself from this term. It is used to evangelize folks into a movement that is very problematic. A group that can’t handle scrutiny of their comic books and video games, so they send death and rape threats. A group that calls women sluts and think they ask for rape if they show too much cleavage. Those are the people who coined this term, and you should want nothing to do with them or their language.
The Frogman. Restoring my faith in humanity one post at a time.
(via lostgrrrls)
the principal at my school made an announcement yesterday that the girls need to start covering up and then i found this in the hallway
BOOM.
(via lipstick-feminists)
Who says it’s hard to start using gender-neutral pronouns? Kids in Baltimore have figured it out.
This NPR piece from a few weeks ago highlights groups of kids who have begun using “yo” to replace gendered pronouns when they speak. Teachers have observed that some kids use “yo” even when they know a person’s gender, but also when they don’t.
Margaret Troyer, a former Baltimore-area teacher, published the first paper showing that “yo” is being used to replace “he” and “she.” Troyer first noticed it while she was teaching middle-school kids in the area.
“Some examples would be ‘yo wearing a jacket,’ ” Troyer says, referring to her research. “Another example from the paper is, ‘Yo threw a thumbtack at me,’ which is a typical middle school example.”
So Troyer began to study her students. She gave them blank cartoons and asked them to fill in the captions — many of the cartoon characters were androgynous.
Troyer found the kids used “yo” instead of “he” or “she” when they didn’t know the gender of the character. But they also used “yo” as a substitute even when they did know the gender.
“They said things like, ‘Yo put his foot on the desk.’ So it was clear from this that they knew it was a male person, but they were just using ‘yo’ to refer to the person,” says Troyer. “And then in other sentences they would use ‘yo’ to refer to a female as well.”
Language is so cool. Kids are so cool.
Can we just repeat that a few more times,
“The comments on any article about feminism justify feminism.”
“The comments on any article about feminism justify feminism.”
(via thenewwomensmovement)
STACY’S MOM or What’s Wrong With Boys, Luscious ‘Lolitas’ and Yummy Mummies?
Remember Stacy’s shagalicious mom? The power pop precursor and PG expander of the mother-daughter porn genre?
From “Little Lolitas” to MILFS - the idea is that we have to calibrate how we:
look,
dress,
stand,
speak,
run,
sit,
eat,
walk,
work,
sleep,
starve,
fix our hair,
shave,
bleach,
cut bits off,
add bits on,
pose,
BE…in order to remain eternally dewy and optimized for male pleasure and comfort. This will be the case for as long as our equal access to resources, power, safety and everything else is vicarious and contingent on whether or not we are “nice” enough. It’s assaultive. Regardless of a girl’s or woman’s age, this kind of objectification and “sexualization” results in a performance. Doesn’t matter if you you dress up… or undress… there is nothing ironic or empowering about this process and its effects.
A regular at Le Louis IX in Paris, “Caramel” keeps a client company, May 1988.
Photograph by James L. Stanfield, National Geographic
(via annetdonahue)
In response to Zombie Industries “Ex Girlfriend” shooting target, hundreds have tweeted #NotBuyingIt to the brand in the last two days. The company is already #4 on our all-time list of worst offenders.
Usually I have something clever to say when a right-winger makes terrible victim-blaming statements like this, but Donald Trump has rendered me silent with astonishment. Sexual assaults in the military… are the fault of… the women who wanted to be in the military and the leaders who allowed them to do that? Because all men are just rapists waiting for an opportunity? Sexual assault is inevitable when men and women are together… so women are the ones who should have to leave? WHAT IN THE ACTUAL FUCK. Remember when Fuckface von Clownstick thought he could be president? Donald Trump is the best argument against capitalism out there.
No words.
(via tumblinfeminist)
